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  • Revenge is a dish we are not suppose to serve

    It is quite the human response to allow your anger to kindle to the point where you desire revenge. I mean, we live in a world that will run all over you if you let it. This place can be very challenging, and people have a tendency to take your kindness for weakness. So naturally, revenge would be the best way to repay, right? Wrong!

    Revenge was something that the creator of the universe never wanted us to participate in. In fact, he claimed it all for himself. Have you ever wondered why? Is it that God somehow delights in the big payback? Why would claim vengeance as his?

    Well, notice that the Bible speaks of revenge as a negative thing for us because we can’t do it outside of emotion. We need anger and a scenario to administer revenge. God doesn’t participate in revenge through emotion. Vengeance and revenge are two different things, and both for God are administered through justice. For us to achieve justice, we would have to first be righteous. We can not be righteous outside of Jesus, and we don’t get to participate in righteous acts. We are made righteous for judgment sake in order that we, on Judgment Day, would be accepted in the Beloved. Until we are removed from this flesh, we have to have Christ as our righteousness.

    Vengeance is when someone repays another for something they did to someone else. Revenge is when the dirty deed is done to you, and you repay the carnage. So when God says vengeance belongs to him, he means that anyone who does something to his child will have to deal with him, and this can be used as a means to save their soul or condemn them in the end. God decides because of his righteous state.

    Studies have found that the person seeking revenge suffers more emotional effects than someone who doesn’t. Moreover, you could end up in a vicious revenge loop that only ends when someone dies. Revenge causes depression and anxiety and lowers your immune system. Revenge takes a toll on your integrity and ruins your character.

    Payback only makes you feel good temporarily. Revenge never settles the score. The great poet Maya Angelou said in her memoirs that she was raped as a young girl and her dad and uncles beat the man within an inch of his life. Well, the guy never raped her again and wasn’t really able to do much more in life after that. Did the revenge satisfy or make even the fact that a young innocent girl was raped? Of course, it didn’t. Revenge could never change anything in the past. It just makes you act a fool in the future.

  • Vengeance doesn’t belong to us

    Humans are capable of great fits of rage. When anger is kindled there is a loss of level thinking, blood runs high and irrational behavior follows. Some of the dirtiest deeds in the world have come from human anger.

    Biblically we were told that vengeance did not belong to us. It was a property of the Almighty! The creator of the universe promised that he would repay. I wonder is that because he knew that we were not equipped to deal with anger?

    When a person gets anger the worst of that person can be seen. They feel the need to be vindictive by any means necessary. People who are more vengeful tend to be those who are motivated by power, by authority and by the desire for status. They basically don’t want to lose face. A person described as vindictive is usually someone who holds a grudge and who always tries to get back at people who they think have wronged them in some way.

    Vindictive people retaliate against others for any insult or perceived slight. Vindictive people do not let things go but rather must seek revenge to satisfy a burning sensation within to play God.

    Psychologically speaking, revenge is more of an emotional state that is triggered when one feels they have been attacked or wronged by another party. It runs on impulse and if not controlled it will destroy whole families and friends.

    The best way to handle your anger and prevent yourself from possible legal trouble is to examine the potential stressors in your life and decide if they are absolutely necessary. Look at the things that matter to you the most and see which areas you are most vulnerable. Some people are very sensitive about their personal life. If you are one of those people then you probably should not have pictures of your family displayed at work and double check your social media privacy settings to make sure you are in complete control over your content.

    Moreover, it would be wise to review your friendships and decide how much access to you they can have. Make sure that you separate your very close friends from mire acquaintances and have close friends who you can talk to when life gets stressful.

    Above all, work on your de-escalation skills and make sure you drink plenty of water and definitely get enough sleep. Regular exercise needs to be apart of your daily routine. Try your best to live peaceably with everyone.