Unconditional marriage?

unconditional loveSo we know that the divorce rate is really high. But it doesn’t have to be. Is it really possible that all of these divorced people just happened to marry the wrong person?

I know that there have been some in terrible abusive relationships and for safety reasons they had to get out. But the lion share of divorces stem from unmet expectations and selfish motives.

No one told them that unconditional love was supposed to be brought to the marriage, not generated from within.

They didn’t know that forgiveness wasn’t optional when they said “I do” and that expectations were only conditions you place on yourself.

They were ignorant to what things should have been the most important. It’s a bad feeling to be judged by how much money you make, how you dress, how shapely your hips are or the size of your breasts. It’s extremely shallow for someone to expect their own version of what’s perfect to be matched or exceeded by their partner.

Of all the scriptures we take literally, no one bothered to take Jesus seriously when he said, “If your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out!” Or “If your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off!” (Matt. 5:29-30).

The simple fix for marriage is for each party to take a step back and really look at what they are bringing to the table. What you are bringing to the table can’t just look good to you alone. It needs to be valuable to the person you pledged to live forever with.

If it is not, and it probably isn’t, the two of you need to talk and stop playing married and truly work at being married.

2 Replies to “Unconditional marriage?”

  1. Today, most married couples don’t want to put in the time, dedication, selflessness or energy to succeed in the marriage…I after almost 30 years of wedded bliss will admit that marriage isn’t easy, but is soooo worth it…..Sad to say, most would rather divorce than strive to work things out…Divorce is easier, they say, than to love your spouse more than you love yourself…God’s plan is best, but sadly, man thinks they know better….

    1. Amen sister! Notwithstanding there are some extreme cases of various abuses that make it very difficult to stay married. Commitment is the key though. Being committed to God’s plan that is. Thanks for the comment!

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